Let’s recap the first 6 months of the year

Well, there have been some big things that have occurred in my life. For starters, I lost about 21lbs. After a doctor visit back in March, I was told that my cholesterol levels and weight were pretty unhealthy. My kids, especially my eldest, Alyssa had been on me about taking care of myself. Quite honestly, I had really let myself go over the years. Using food to comfort my emotional pain. It took about a month of me cutting back to drop the weight.

One of the things I started doing was going to things on my own. I figured it’s a great way to meet new people and experience new things. One of the best events I attended was midget wrestling. Oh man, that was soooooo entertaining! I loved every minute of it! Plus I had gone to a few motorcycle meetups. One thing I did learn is that in terms of motorcycles, I like to do my own thing. I wasn’t a big fan of the meetups because all people did were talk about their bikes and etc. I guess that’s cool and all, but I’d rather sit down for a pint with a good friend and talk about meaningful things.

My new romper, I loved it so much that I bought another!

I also started going to therapy to help deal with myself. I also reached out to the ex telling her that I want to just get along. Aleah had her HS graduation, plus we were hosting a party for her in which the ex was invited to. I made sure I was cordial and friendly.

In mid-June, Aleah had scoliosis surgery. She was in the hospital for several days, and about 3 weeks into it she fainted in the shower. Luckily Alyssa found her and was able to call 911. After several hours at the ER and a bunch of tests, we finally got home around 11:30pm. The doctors basically said it was a combination of things that lead up to it that are related to her surgery. Aleah is mending slowly, she’s still having a hard time with the pain levels and her heart rate spiking at times. Her sisters have been amazing in making sure she’s taken care of. As tough as this has been for Aleah, it really did put a lot of pressure on me and the girls. The ER trip was scary, plus we’re staying with her up until her surgeon gives her the clearance to be more independent.

It’s been about 3 years when it all hit the fan. For the most part, I’m doing well. Our home has become our home. The girls have taken more responsibility by adding their own decorative touches, cleaning and even having events there. It’s really been a blessing to have all the girls live with me. Between them and the dogs, it’s never a dull moment.

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Enjoying the moment(s)

One of the things I’ve learned to do while being single is to enjoy the moment, soak it all up…alone. Trust me it wasn’t easy at first because I was so used to being with someone all the time. Now that I’m single, I had to rediscover all the wants and likes in my life.

One of my favorite things to do is to go fishing. I go to a nearby park to fish, smoke a cigar, have the occasional meal, pray and hang out with friends. I make sure I take the time to breathe deeply, enjoy my surroundings and thank God through prayer for the things I see and feel. I don’t need to catch anything to make it great, if I do, then it’s like a bonus.

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In the past 3 years, I’ve taken small road trips to visit my brother in Yuma. The drive takes about 5-6 hours and I have learned to enjoy the time that goes by. During my drive I listen to great music, call someone and talk with them and pray. I’ll usually stop at an Indian Casino for a Prime Rib dinner too.

For me enjoying the moment(s) that life gives me helps to bring me back down to earth and remind me of all the things that God has done in my life. I can’t fully say that I’m completely healed from all the stuff that went down, but having my times alone to recharge has definitely helped. I think if anything, the best part about enjoying my new life is that I’ve been able to rediscover who I am and I really like the person I’ve become. I’m sure that enjoying the moment is a form of gratitude. I practice reminding myself of the things I’m grateful for all the time. It helps to defeat the negative thinking that can ensue when something triggers me.

Anyhow, the lesson for today is to enjoy the moment. Soak up the scenery and be grateful. Life is pretty good!

Would I call it a ‘Come Back?”

Right when I started going through some life changes, I abandoned many of my hobbies and interests. I picked up new ones, but I knew the things I used to do were still holding a special place in my heart. For me that was mountain biking and writing. I used to manage two sites, BikeCommuters.com and MtnBikeRiders.com. But while I was dealing with all the drama in my life, I decided to step down and relinquish my responsibilities to some dear friends. Now that I’m going into my 3rd year of my new life, I started showing more interest in these hobbies. In fact, I even bought a new mountain bike and I’ve started blogging again.
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This bike isn’t anything fancy, it’s a basic single speed fat tire mountain bike. I got a crazy deal on it through eBay. I’m actually looking forward to riding again, it should be fun. This fat bike would make things more interesting on the trail once I start riding again.

The blogging thing was actually huge. I used to pride myself on my ability to write about anything. But I stopped for quite some time just to deal with things. As of late, I’ve been publishing more and more work. One of my other blogs I run just got a new article posted and it’s about Chinese Scooters.

I think as I work through my stuff, I’m finally starting to get a sense of where I want to go and what I want to do. Writing and riding was always a big part of my life that I found very rewarding. So it only makes sense for me to come back to it. Just recently a friend was visiting whom I haven’t seen in years asked me how I’m doing and what I’m up to now. I told him that for the most part I’m doing well. He asked me about my hobbies, I told him I’ve been fishing more than I ever have but mentioned my new bike. I guess it was at that point where I started seeing that I’m on my way out of the muck and mire I’ve had to deal with in the past few years. Now that things are starting to settle down, I’m picking up where I left off. I’m hoping that the next thing I start focusing on would be my health. I do miss racing…but that’s for another day to talk about.

So how are things?

Thanks for asking. I’d say they’re getting better. Divorce sucks and I’m still dealing with some of the emotional trauma from it. But I have to say I’m doing better today than I was when it first hit the fan. My girls continue to do well. They still live with me.

A lot has happened over the past several months. So for starters I left a job in May to go work somewhere else. That new gig didn’t mesh well with my life and priorities, so I left. I landed with a Marketing Agency in South Orange County. I’m pretty happy here.

We lost Cowboy over the summer. He had some heart problems and was deteriorating so we had to put him down. It really broke all of our hearts. I still miss that guy. He was such a great dog.

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In his absense the girls really missed having another dog in the house. Sadie, our other doggo felt it too. So the girls went to the shelter and adopted a little girl named Maggie. She’s a cute and funny looking dog. Her personality totally reminds me of Alyssa when she was little. She’s basically Alyssa’s kid. Maggie is such a trouble maker…just like how her mom (Alyssa) used to be. Sadie tolerates her, it’s been a rough go around with those two, they fight on occassion.

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Anyhow, this month I turn 42…dang I feel old! I’ve got more grey hairs on my head. Luckily I’m not going bald…thank goodness for good genes! Rather than having another party, I told the girls I just want something low-key at the house. I requested Costco Pizza, some beer and a few cigars to enjoy afterwards. I’m not sure why I’m not much in a partying mood.

Perhaps its just me getting older and not needing people to validate me. Parties are great for that, you invite your closest friends and family and they give you presents, hang out, joke with you about how old you’re getting and etc. It’s fun, but it also costs money. This year I know who I am, I’m loved, confident and I’m talented; which means I don’t need other people to remind me that. Don’t get me wrong, a happy birthday wish would be nice and would go a long way with me.

One of the things I told myself I wanted to pursue was to live a simple life. My previous life was very much about what someone else wanted. I’m not much into travel, I like good food, sometimes crappy Chinese food is the best. I also like just sitting around and just hanging out.

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With that in mind, I find myself going fishing quite often. I dont’ have to catch anything, if I do, then it’s a bonus. I go to the lake to decompress, relax, pray and journal. I love smoking cigars and riding my motorcycles. Ya that’s really about it. Those are the things I enjoy. I feel that I’m doing a great job in keeping up with it, lol.

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In the last-almost-3years, I’ve gotten more into working with my hands. I find it very theraputic. Working on my cars, motorcycles and just plain tinkering gets my mind to focus and remind me that I’m good at many of these things I get involved with. It’s funny, when I haven’t worked on stuff, I find myself wanting to hold tools in my hands just to get some sort of fix…no pun intended.

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Anyway, that’s it for now. There’s been quite a few things that has happened and currently going on now in my life. I’m on Instagram so if you feel inclined to, follow me @rlpolicar

A lot has happened…

Hello,

If you’re one of the 3 people who actually visit this site, thanks for coming by! But I also wanted to give an update on what’s been going on with me. First let’s start of that this blog will now become my own personal journal. I’m gainfully employed doing Online Marketing for a reputable company, so I don’t need to post my thoughts about that stuff here since I’m actually practicing what I’ve preached.

OK so let’s get going…Well, where do I start, oh ya, I got divorced. All my kids live with me, we are doing well. Our home is messy, our dogs bark a lot and we drink too much coffee. We laugh at fart jokes, stuff about periods and me dating again. It’s never a dull moment in my home.

Another big thing that has happened is actually grew my hair out! Ya I know for some people that’s not a big deal. But I had kept it short for over 15 years. As soon as I got separated I let it grow. Yes I actually have a full head of hair, I’m not bald or going bald. But I do have a spot on my scalp where its bare. That’s because when I was a kid, some kid threw a large rock and it hit my head, which scarred over.

Within the 2016-2017 I took the time to really discover myself. I got more into motorcycles, whiskey and cigars. I also got into building stuff with my hands. I find that working with my hands is somewhat therapeutic. It helps me feel competent and that I have some sort of manly skill that I can offer. I mean it’s like a primitive desire that men have that they are able to offer something to a potential mate. Just picture a cave man trying to impress a cave woman…he wants to show off his skills to woo the ladies right? I suppose working on cars, motorcycles and building stuff is kinda like my way of peacocking to potential mates…lol

Anyhow during this time period I was able to do some really cool stuff like sky dive with my brother and daughter, get a tattoo, buy and sell a bunch of motorcycles and be part of a Yamaha Motorcycles commercial! How cool is that eh?

All that stuff is great and all, but there were some tough times. Getting divorced messes a person up. Plus having to be there for your own kids during this time is another tough situation to deal with. But Lord willing, things are working out.

Rather than me boring you with details, you might want to just check out my Instagram and get a pictorial view of what life has been like for me.

Until next time!

RL Policar

Why it’s important to publish a blog article multiple times a day

Let’s say you have a blog and you only update it once in a while. Some employees who oversee that part of the business may feel like they have nothing to talk about thus the blog doesn’t get updated. But what if I told you that when you publish an article you’re letting search engines know that you’ve got something new.

Now imagine that happening a few times a day! That’s one of the things we specialize in at RLPolicar.com. We’re known to publish up to 200 articles per week for the clients we work with. We also make sure that it’s on different blog platforms too. For example, we’ll use two different platforms, one article is on Blogger and another on WordPress. By publishing on two different platforms, you’re letting search engines know that there’s new content in two different places. Which is a good thing especially if your blogs talk about your company/product or services.

When people ask me how often should they be blogging, I tell them “as often as you can.” Meaning as much as you can in one day. But you have to do it EVERYDAY to get the best impact. I’ve worked with companies where all they want is 1-2 articles per month, in all honesty that won’t be as effective as 1-2 per day. Basically, the more articles, the better. Search engines love fresh content and by publishing new articles per day, the more popular you are on the results.

Social Media means YOU being more Social

So what do I mean by being “Social?” It’s pretty simple. You have to be your own brand’s best ambassador. I’ll give you an example. Yesterday I was at a store and I noticed that they had a small signed that said, “find us on Facebook.” I immediately asked the clerk who handles their Social Media and she told me that it was a collection of the employees who really didn’t know what they were doing. So I began to tell her about my services and what I can do. From that I got the contact info of the owner of the company.

That interaction was of me being “social.” I gotta be gut level honest with you. I come from an IT background and us IT folks have a reputation to be introverted so being social doesn’t really come easy to me as it does for folks out there. But just being out going isn’t really enough. You also have to be somewhat friendly to the people you deal with, right? Besides, who’s going to want to work with a Social Media guy who’s a jerk or condescending? I know I wouldn’t.

With that in mind let’s list some things down that might help you with your branding/social media efforts when interacting with REAL people.

1. Be friendly.
2. Smile.
3. Ask questions directed towards the person you’re talking to. People love talking about themselves (More on that later).
4. Engage in conversation about their business.
5. Tell them about you and your brand.

I know some of these things are basic human interaction things that we all do on a daily basis, but heck some of us can easily forget. Hopefully this helps!

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